Published on July 26th, 2014 | by WB Contributor0
When Caring for Your Mom Means Letting Go
Have you ever thought of sending your parents to a nursing home or home for the aged when the time comes? For the majority, it’s a resounding no! Unfortunately, some of us don’t have this option and a nursing home care facility is the answer.
Many people think that as your mother cared for you since day 1 of your birth, you are obliged to do the same when she gets old. Thus, the concept of having to care for your mother has been ingrained in most of us. The big question is: how much of a ‘care’ are you willing to provide and give to your mother?
Whether it is about taking care of needs of our children, finding time to improve our married lives, or even trying to take care of our elderly mother, we try to do our best.
Many of us think that letting go is defined as putting a loved one in a nursing home. While it is physically letting go, the bigger picture actually presents a different alternative… one that is better, and one that would fit a person who is in that state and age. Some families consider getting a caretaker, and some, consider nursing homes. The bottom line in any decision that you, or any family, must make is to ensure your loved one’s safety and best interest.
There are actually several considerations that you and your family have to go through. This is why such topic is a ‘let’s-sit-down-and-talk’ type of conversation because as you weigh the pros and cons, it is not just all about the money. There are nursing homes that would best take care of your mother, or any loved one for that matter, while getting a caretaker to fully focus on his needs, would be another option.
The type of care that you would consider is really about what your mom currently needs. Day to day experiences eventually push you into making such decision. As such, you need to be practical as well as realistic when it comes to giving your mom the right kind of care. As a busy and probably working person, you need to think of having to wake up during wee hours of dawn to give medication to your mom. Do you have the time and energy to be able to do so? You may have to change the diaper often during the day and make sure that the bed pan is washed and cleaned often. These are the daily grind that comes with the territory. As Mom gets older and older, this includes having to attend to her personal needs.
Let’s face it. Getting old is not something that many look forward to, and definitely not something that you hope to reach, especially when it means having your family decided on what to do with you and imagining having someone else, other than family, give you the attention that you need. At the end of the day, you want the best for her, right? With the help of nursing home nurses and professionals, you are certain that not only are the medical needs met, the love and attention, and more importantly, time, is given to her. That’s what matters the most.
In this busy life we move in, family come first. Whether it is about taking care of needs of our children, finding time to improve our married lives, or even trying to take care of our elderly mother, we try to do our best.